assalamualaikum
i've been using social media since 2010 and it was facebook. back then, it's just another medium to chat with some friends, share some pictures mcm tu. i also thought that social media was an amazing invention especially to connect our friends and families that are far from us. imagine having a cousin yang kita dah lama tak jumpa, then kita dapat tengok dia pergi disneyland. pastu kita pun boleh tegur tegur dia dkt facebook/twitter/instagram, minta belikan souvenir and whatnot. terus kita bercakap balik dgn each other.
tapi lately people have been using "freedom of speech" untuk gunakan social media untuk justify kejadian pointing fingers ke orang sana sini. kita spend time untuk tulis status just to condemn people atas alasan "it's just my opinion". yang tak best tu, there are people yg buat status, condemning people's freaking personal life. i mean, i dah move on dgn twitter debates about sensitive issues related to org komen2 agama i, or fights about women's right -- do what u want with these big topics. tapi yang i tak faham yang suka diss diss personal life orang lain???
mcm ni kan, badrol ada personal instagram then jenab sibuk nak diss on badrol's sharing padahal itu adalah account individual dia.
it got me thinking, does the use of social media makes us compare our lives with each other? and bila kita rasa tak puas, we use our accounts to bash the person who makes us feel insecure? if you say yes, then it saddens me how a display can create an image in your head that your life is based on a bar set by another individual.
kita semua kena faham yang kita semua manusia, dan kita ada nafsu untuk menunjuk nunjuk kejayaan, kegembiraan dan kemampuan kita. jenab benci badrol post pasal kemampuan dia pergi disneyland, esok lusa jenab post pasal dia beli barang kemas. kita memang ada keinginan untuk tunjukkan pada dunia apa yang kita ada and that's okay (ini belum bahas in islamic standpoint ye, tak sentuh pasal riak takbur semua tu). kalau A keluar dating dgn boyfriend pi makan pasembor pun dia post story sebab happy, kalau si B yang berjaya beli iPhone latest, mesti dia share juga.
for me, being insecure is unhealthy sbb dia tak stop setakat kita dissing this person dkt profile kita je. kita akan ada tendency untuk mengumpat si fulan ni dkt orang lain, dan dalam hati kita akan terdetik untuk cakap benda benda yang tak sepatutnya,
"ah badrol ni boleh pergi disneyland sbb bapak dia kerja kerajaan, mesti makan rasuah punyeee"
or
"ah badrol ni mesti pinjam ah long. menunjuk kejap je ni, satgi diam la sbb duit dah habis"
or worse...
"badrol ni sedap sangat menunjuk ni. esok lusa kena scam 10k baru tahu langit tinggi ke rendah"
sampai hati tu rasa salah nak terdoa benda bukan bukan dekat orang. that's not it.
believe me when i say yang i found people yg comment benda2 tak patut on benda2 indah kurniaan tuhan, memang mengucap panjang bila baca. ada org cakap "zubaidah ni duk share gambar anak anak dia, esok lusa cacat kang baru tahu tak tunjuk" or "munirah ni duk share gambar pregnant, gugur baru tahu". can you imagine, ada orang dibelakang keypad yang actually typing these things tau. *geleng kepala*.
i love seeing my friends sharing the whereabouts of their lives on social media. awal awal i also terlibat dalam penyakit dengki, tapi lama lama it's eating me inside out sampai rasa tak nak buka instagram sebab geram sendiri. now i'm robbing myself the pleasure of using social media. but i dont wanna dwell in the past so that's that.
now i sendiri jarang post stuffs on social media sebab i'm way too occupied with my day to day work and also my life is so full of interesting stuff to the point yang i live too much in the moment. also, even if i tangkap gambar interesting thing yang happen today, esok ada benda interesting lagi berlaku so bila nak post, semua tu dah basi, no point haha.
see what i did there? if you have the tendency untuk rasa "tak best" bila tengok orang lain punya story, cuba hype yourself more. make yourself believe yang you have everything you need to feel happy and content. barulah boleh make peace dengan apa yang orang lain share. be open to be happy with what other people shares. you tak realize how much you have only because you believe yang other people have more than you. that's the problem. let me offer you a solution:-
stop feeling bad when u see someone else doing more that you because in actuality, they are not doing or getting more, that's just apa yang tuhan cakap rezeki dia masa tu. dia tak mungkin ada semua yang you ada, dan you tak mungkin ada semua yang dia ada. semua ada secukupnya apa yang patut ada. percaya ni je, dan akan rasa cukup, tak ada kurang. mendengki only sakitkan diri kita, sebab dia kat sana tgh enjoy apa yang dia dapat, mestilah dia happy, kita yang sakit sendiri. focus on what you have. look to your right and be thankful that you have a job yang u happy doing. look to your left and be thankful yang you ada bestfriends yang suka belanja you makan.
orang akan sentiasa share what makes them happy. sedangkan kalau dia depress atau ada masalah dunia pun dia share, apatah lagi bila dia tengah bahagia. kita tak boleh control apa yang orang share. kalau sakit hati sangat, sila mute jelah member tu ye.